How to Deal With Rejection

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It is part of a woman’s nature to reject men in order to filter out those that she is not attracted to. And unfortunately, most men do not know how to deal with rejection. In fact, the act of women rejecting men is a beneficial process for the following reasons:

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  1. It lessens the competition by eliminating the men who cannot overcome approach anxiety or simply cannot cope with rejection.
  2. The act of approaching a woman despite the fear of rejection demonstrates a man’s value, which is something that appeals to women.
  3. Women who like to drag things on and lead men on without the actual intention of dating them is undoubtedly the worst situation that you can ever be in. Don’t believe me? Try it.

Think of it this way. A woman who rejects you following your approach is essentially saving you a lot of time, energy and effort. Aimlessly chasing a girl that sees absolutely no future with you is pointless. You’re better off slapping a “friend zoned” sign on your forehead.

Unfortunately, completely removing the fear of rejection is almost impossible. The innate fear of rejection is a natural emotion that our minds produce to protect ourselves from pain and embarrassment.

The problem arises when your rejection anxiety completely hinders your ability to take action on a continuous basis.

How to Deal with Rejection

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Why are we afraid of getting rejected? Because our minds think that it will hurt our ego and leave us embarrassed and upset. It may leave a bit of uneasiness in your stomach, but it’s really nothing more than that. Uneasiness. It’s not like the girl took a knife and ran it through your heart. Now THAT would be painful.

The concept of a “hurt ego” is an immature way of thinking. How would you feel if you waved at a child and he or she was unresponsive? Likely, you’d rationalize that children are still immature and don’t understand the social response norm; you certainly wouldn’t devalue yourself based on this incident.

So why would you be embarrassed or disappointed when a woman rejects you, not based on real knowledge about you, but rather on her first impression of you from a brief conversation?

Feeling the disappointment of rejection is unnecessary because there are plenty of fish in the sea; your opportunities with women are essentially unlimited.

Feeling the embarrassment from rejection is also pointless. Embarrassment stems from the innate fear of being judged. But having others judge you will not affect you in anyway unless you consciously allow it to.

If you possess a strong mindset and can filter out needless emotions, then external judgments should not affect your character in any way. Why should you care what other people think? And most of the time, it’s unlikely that you’ll ever run into that person again.

Getting Over Rejection

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It is crucial that you disconnect yourself from the potential outcomes of your approach.

If you start to visualize yourself getting rejected, then you’re more likely to actually get rejected. Think and you shall become.

Dissociate yourself from any outcomes like getting laid or getting turned down and desensitize yourself from negative feelings. Always be optimistic and have a positive outlook.

Live in the moment. Stop analyzing the potential outcomes and “just do it” as Nike says. No goal exists without a path so keep training yourself to take that first step without hesitation. In fact, you’ll be pleasantly surprised with the results you receive.

Remember, the women who reject you are getting the short end of the stick; they lose the opportunity to be with someone like you and not the other way around. Now that you’ve learned how to overcome fear of rejection, I grant you permission to go forth and attract all the women you desire.

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